"That One Thing"

The tragedy in Aleppo, Syria is one that should concern everyone. The human tragedy that occurred there will have its effects on generations to come. Recently I read an article about something more positive that happened in the midst of the tragedy that should get the attention of everyone as well. That is how the Syrian refugees selected one item out of all of the things that they had that they could possible carry with them.

I often have asked youth that I have taught to prioritize that one thing that is most important to them. Not really confronted personally with the crisis, that one thing is often a technological piece—a game player or a smartphone. Occasionally I will get a more thoughtful answer like a favorite keepsake from their life. But a values clarification exercise does not always lead to meaningful sorting out of priorities-- certainly not like real life crisis.

In Aleppo, as well as other places in Syria, I understand that refugees took picture albums, keepsakes, and other things that could not be replaced as they left for other countries. That certainly reflects the values we would want to instill in one other. One woman took her copy of the Koran, a doctor forced to flee alone took a photograph of his wife, an eight-year-old (pictured above) took some bracelets, and an old woman brought an old ring that was given to her by her dying mother when she was ten years old. A man took a musical instrument, a lute, which he says can “give me some relief from my sorrows.” A young woman brought her education diploma she had earned and been given at graduation. Another woman said she brought with her ‘my soul, nothing more.’

Certainly these decisions made in critical circumstances should reflect our values. What you choose should come from your faith in God and your relationships with other people. The Syrians who were interviewed reflect that. They did bring things, but objects often connect us with people. If we are separated from loved ones, we can hold on to the object and call to mind all that person means to us.

What is “that one thing” that you would prize more than any other? If a fire was ravaging your house or if foreign intruders were coming to take over your house, what would that one thing be? We are materialistic people, but we should not let this lessen our view of ourselves. The things we have received are far more significant than just being things. They are a reflection of our relationships,

At Christmas most people in families exchange gifts. With each gift comes a sentiment, a valuing of the other. It is a way of saying that I am glad I know you and you are alive and can reflect the glory God put in you. Most of us this Christmas probably won’t receive “that one thing” we would choose in a crisis that has the highest value for us. But this exchange of material things will be a reflection of our values, what is important to us. In turn as we give things to others it will reflect our valuing of other human beings. As we go into the new year it will be a reminder of the priorities we all should set—God, other people, and then us.

So as you gather this Christmas think of those in need across the globe. Do what you can to help them! But also be grateful for who is in front of you—and show them that you love them and care for them with your gifts of material objects. Most importantly, be present. Give the gift of yourself!